Its All in A Handshake Your Career Future

Its All in A Handshake Your Career Future Its All In A Handshake Your Career Future A handshake can make a difference. This morning, I was giving a presentation to a group of job seekers, and as customary, went around the room introducing myself and shaking peoples hands before the session. Most of us are either taught or read advice about how to provide a firm handshake that exudes confidence, enthusiasm, and gives a little clue about who we are. But in doing a lot of this kind of work, Ive found that many people simply dont get how to do it right. Theres always someone in the group that extends a clammy and limp appendage as a handshake that leaves the recipient wondering where the bathroom is located, in order to wash themselves off. Or, theres the handsqueezer who takes it as a personal challenge to play chicken on who withdraws their hand first as a result of the tectonic forces being exerted in the handshake. Case in point today: M was a job seeker that came in close to the end of the networking time and not too long before the program started. I made eye contact with him, smiled, and introduced myself while reaching out to shake his hand. What happened next nearly brought tears to my eyes. Women are often described as the gentle sex and yes, we dont possess the sheer physical strength that men do.  But I am all about giving a good firm handshake to communicate equality. But M took this gesture to a whole new level. His hand squeezed mine so hard that the bones started to crunch. It was like putting my hand into a vise. Ive never had ANYONE shake my hand so hard that I have literally been on the verge of crying out in pain. In todays scenario, Ms handshake mercifully ended when I withdrew. I smiled at him (not sure if it really wasnt blinking back tears seriously), and started to turn away. But then I stopped. As a career management coach, I am programmed to provide learning opportunities when possible to help job seekers. I realized that this gentlemans handshake could very likely be a career obstacle unto itself. So instead, I turned back to him and said in a lower voice, You know, your handshake was so strong that it was becoming painful. Especially when shaking a womans hand, this is not appropriate. You might want to try and tone this down. He looked at me confused; so I repeated myself, and explained that I was a coach who wanted to help him. I think he understood, but was a little chastised. My point here is that we hear so much about all the factors we need to be monitoring about ourselves during a job search, and even something as simple as a handshake can change someones perception about you. M was dressed professionally, had a nice elevator pitch, and I saw him smiling and engaging with other attendees. But my takeaway from our encounter is that M subconsciously has power issues and was trying to dominate not only me, but other people that received his vise-like grip. Something to consider the next time you go to a networking function. How are you going to shake hands? What is it saying about you? Its all in your handshake which is a powerful personal connection. Handshake: By Lucas (Own work) [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons